1. First thing’s first
Start by explaining to your child, without put pressure on him/her, that school is very important for him/her and that you are expecting the best possible he/she can do.
2. Establish scheduled hours for studying
Every child needs a routine. Define his/her program depending on his/her age, in a quiet and pleasant environment. Help your children as much as you can, but try not falling into the trap doing your entire child’s homework.
3. Meet his/her teachers
Get to know the person who is going to spend a lot of hours with your child. Ask about basic rules for homework. Discuss with the teacher any subject in regards with your child he must be aware of.
4. Don’t allow your child to manipulate you
The children have a unique ability to manipulate their teachers and their parents against each other. So if any question or doubt arises, it is better to discuss it with the concerned person to avoid misunderstandings and to have a clear picture of the situation.
5. Appreciate your child’s efforts and praise him/her for that
There isn’t bigger disappointment for a child, when after big efforts, his parents show signs of indifference or criticize him. On the opposite, when his/her work is appreciated, he/she feels encouraged to do even better next time.
6. Develop his/her responsibilities
Teach your child to be responsible to his/her obligations to the school, by doing his homework on time, and by keeping his/her room settled. Don’t expect perfection from the first time. It doesn’t matter if the result isn’t the desirable at the beginning, it is the effort that counts.
7. Control the TV Programs
All the specialists agree that children, nowadays, watch more television than necessary. It is not only the time they spend watching TV, it is also the unsuitable shows that alter their creativity and their sense of reality.
Parents must allow their children to view programs suitable for their age only and for limited time. They can also watch some shows together with their children and engage discussion afterwards.
8. Right Expectations
Every parent expects his/her child to be successful in school, and thus to prepare him/her for a good life. It’s good to encourage our children to do their best, but we mustn’t push them over their limits to succeed that. Our children shouldn’t be only good students, they should also be happy.
9. Evaluate your child’s potential
Evaluate your child’s potential with honesty, without being ashamed by his/her weaknesses. Some kids are better students than others. Others need more effort to have good grades.
But the most important is not to expect from our child to fulfill our career dream. Parents can create big disappointment to their child when they are trying to predestine him/her to become a doctor but his/her dream is to become a mechanic. It is essential to know that the life of your child is not yours and you have to be proud of his/her abilities in any domain.
10. Encourage your child to have outside school activities
Every child needs some activities outside school. Depending on his/her interests (sports, music, foreign languages, etc.), encourage your child to get involved in an activity in which he/she is inclined to in order to also create his/her own identity outside school or home environment. All these extra activities will help your child to become more sociable and increase his/her self-esteem.
11. Earning his/her own money
To receive allowances is an important stage in the life of a child. Inculcate the child the value of money, notions like saving, appreciation of a well done work, mutual aid, or management of a budget. If these notions seem to you important, to give children pocket money constitutes a mean to develop his/her abilities, to prepare him/her for real life, to offer some autonomy.
Every child feels the need to communicate and share his/her thoughts and questions. It is very important if he/her can do it with his/her family. Listen to your child and try to be cool no matter how illogically some issues may sound. Offer your own opinion, but always respect your child’s thoughts. It is better to have a child that discusses everything with his/her family than a child that doesn’t share his thoughts with anyone.
Finally, remember that no parent is always successful, but neither feels always successful. You can however, limit your disappointment and influence effectively the success of your child in school, with your personal attendance in each sector of his/her life. Thus you create a positive atmosphere and better prospects for success in your house and in the life of your child.