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For or against spanking? Does spanking always occur at the right time, is it always justified? Has it really some educational value? Several studies showed that most of the time, when spanking occurs, it is because the adult is irritated and could not control himself.

Manage to contain and control yourself

If an adult gives a spanking in a moment of anger, the child does not understand why we reprimand him. He understands, though, that his foolishness was not equal to his punishment. Furthermore, it is not rare that after such a situation the adult feels guilty, something that the child perceives. He can be then destabilized: his references regarding authority are confused.

If the whip has been banned for many years now, the current tendency is not nevertheless towards looseness when it comes to children.

What education to give to our children?

Is it necessary to be flexible or rigorous?

What about spanking?

Is it absolutely necessary to avoid it or is it an integral part of the education?

Some questions which answers could bring important and useful tips for parents who are still “experimenting” different educational pattern to try to find the perfect balance in their family.

By arriving at middle school, children lose a unique, close teacher, comparable to parents. This reference teacher is missing in middle school. It is a moment when we ask the adolescents to be autonomous while they are still very dependent finally. At the beginning of the 6^th grade, in my opinion, every teacher should take care of four teenagers to restore this privileged link, reinstating affection in the educational link. I believe that it would be necessary to eliminate educational neutrality. Albert Camus would, without doubt, never have become Albert Camus without the determining influence of Mister Germain, his elementary school teacher, had on his school years.

Parents should not especially get involved in it! I believe firmly that it is necessary to leave the questions of health and sexuality of adolescents to health care professionals who surround them: family doctors, paediatrician, school nurses. Studies indicate that more than 70 % of the children trust their family doctor. It is necessary to take advantage of this privileged relation to let them live what I consider as a part of discovery and autonomy.

The beginning of the crisis of our teenagers is marked by indications funny to identify. During the 5^th grade in elementary school, for example, we see their hair and their hairstyles changing. They also begin refusing to get dressed as you would like to. And then there are all these shrugs of shoulders, when you talk to them..