Being a parent is one of the most challenging occupations that anyone can ever take on. It is important that you are able to understand and practice the skills needed to be the best parent you can be for your child. You are your child’s best resource and role model. There are actually several types of parenting styles that are used by parents with their children.
The first among the types of parenting I will introduce today is known as authoritarian parenting. In this parenting style, parents usually have high expectations on their children complying, and conforming to the rules that they have set for them at home, at school, and in the community. The problem with this type of parenting is that the rules and directions given by the parents change with the situation or whenever the parents feel like changing them. This can create an atmosphere of uncertainty for the children. They don’t know what to expect. Most of the children who grew up with parents that used this type of parenting style have lived in fear. The children are usually withdrawn socially and have less self-confidence than those children raised by parents who used other types of parenting styles. They also usually leave home at a younger age, use drugs and get involved with a partner of which their parents disapprove. They often become totally estranged from their parents when they become adults.
The second of the types of parenting for discussion here is permissive parenting. This parenting style of is generally characterized by a goal of a harmonious and loving relationship between the parent and the child. However, there are usually low expectations of behavior because the parent is afraid to use discipline. A permissive parent often has the desire for his/her child to like or be pleased with the parent at the end of the day. As a result, the parent does anything that the child wants him/her to do. Children who have been raised by overly permissive parents usually suffer from immaturity, a lack of focus and emotional self-regulation problems. Children of such parents frequently cannot control impulses and are unable to accept responsibility for their own actions. When they get in trouble, they tend to blame other people. They usually live close to where they grew up and stay dependent even into early adulthood.
Neglectful parenting would be the third among the types of parenting styles for thought. It is basically a notch more extreme than permissive parenting, yet contains some of the same features. A neglectful parent might be able to provide shelter, food and the other basic needs of his/her child, but is generally emotionally uninvolved in the life of the child. Neglectful parents usually do not ask their children about what happened in school and in the other things that they engage in. Most of the time, children of neglectful parents grow up with a feeling of resentment against their parents and become estranged from them in adulthood.
With this information as food for thought, balance and genuineness are key elements to be considered in good parenting.
Consider the following points:
Allow children to talk about these your rules and expectations
Create rules are fair, clear, and based on the developmental stage of the child
Create limits and boundaries that help to deep your child safe
Explain your rules, limits, boundaries, and your reasons for them (repeatedly, if necessary)
Verbalize the rules often
Honor your child’s efforts at self-sufficiency
Teach and explain natural consequences as a part of ’cause and effect’
Determine your parenting goal
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